Printable Boundaries Worksheets
The Boundaries Workbook: A Boundaries Worksheet for Knowing Your Limits
Most of us were never taught how to set a boundary. We learned to keep the peace, to be easy, or to say nothing until resentment boiled over. This printable workbook walks you through finding your limits, saying them clearly and keeping them, without abandoning yourself or the people you love.
- Written by a licensed psychotherapist
- Instant PDF download
- Worksheets, scripts and a 30-day practice
What a Boundary Is
A Boundary Is About What You Will Do
A boundary is information you give about what you will and won't do, so a relationship can keep working for both people. It governs your own behavior, not someone else's. "You need to stop yelling" is a request. "If the yelling continues, I'll end the call and we can try again tomorrow" is a boundary. The workbook covers all seven types:
What's Inside
Eleven Parts, One Step at a Time
Each part pairs a short explanation with worksheets you fill in. Go in order the first time, then come back to the part you need.
What Boundaries Are
Walls vs. boundaries, the boundary spectrum and the seven types.
Your Boundary Story
Family rules, spoken and unspoken, and the role you played growing up.
Self-Assessment
A 15-question score and a map of where your boundaries need attention.
Values and Needs
Name the need under a resentment and sort your non-negotiables.
What Your Body Knows
Body signals, your yes, no and maybe, and a pause practice for buying time.
Guilt and People-Pleasing
Healthy guilt vs. false guilt, and how to reframe the story.
Saying It
A four-part boundary based on Nonviolent Communication, plus ten scripts.
Boundaries by Relationship
Partners, parents, aging parents, friends, work and your phone.
When Boundaries Are Pushed
Common pushback, the broken record and following through.
Receiving Boundaries
How to hear someone else's no without feeling rejected.
Repair and Practice
Repair scripts, a weekly check-in and a 30-day boundary practice.
Room to Write
Fill-in worksheets on every part, so the practice happens on the page.
"The goal isn't to stop caring about people. It's to include yourself among the people you care about."Risha London Nathan, from The Boundaries Workbook
Walls vs. Boundaries
What a Boundary Sounds Like in Real Life
Walls and boundaries can both feel protective. A wall shuts the other person out. A boundary lets the relationship continue on terms that are safe for you.
| The moment | A wall sounds like | A boundary sounds like |
|---|---|---|
| You need space after an argument | Going silent for days | "I need a break. Let's talk tonight." |
| A topic you don't want to discuss | "I'm fine," when you're not | "I'm not comfortable discussing that." |
| Someone hurt you | Cutting them off after one mistake | "That hurt me. Can we talk about it?" |
| A friend asks for a big favor | Refusing all help so you never owe anyone | "I can help with this, but not that." |
| Someone new wants to get close | Never letting anyone in | "I'd like to get to know you slowly." |
Who It's For
This Setting Boundaries Worksheet Is for You If
- You say yes when you mean no, then feel resentful or drained.
- You feel guilty every time you put your own needs first.
- Family visits or holidays leave you feeling like a younger version of yourself.
- You say nothing, then explode, instead of saying what you need early.
- Work spills into every evening and you're not sure how to push back.
- You want to practice between sessions, or you're not ready for therapy yet.
A Look at the Worksheets
Boundary Worksheets You'll Fill In
Rate 15 statements and see where you're grounded, developing or stretched thin.
Rate how clear your boundaries are with a partner, parents, friends, work and yourself.
Turn a recent resentment into the need and value it points to.
Notice where you feel each one in your body, so you can trust the signal.
Draft it in four parts: what happened, how you feel, what you need, what you'll do.
Plan one boundary with one person, including what you'll do if they push back.
Prepare for guilt, bargaining and anger before they show up.
One small action a day, from noticing a no to holding it with care.
About the Author
Meet Risha London Nathan
Hi, I'm Risha. I'm a licensed psychotherapist in California, Connecticut, New Jersey and New York, and a certified holistic health coach. In my work with individuals and couples, boundaries come up again and again: with a partner, a parent, a job, or the guilt that shows up right after a simple no.
I wrote this workbook so you can practice that work at your own pace, between sessions or before you're ready to start therapy. It uses the same tools I bring to my practice: attachment, family systems, Nonviolent Communication and body-based exercises that help you feel a limit before you say it.
- Licensed psychotherapist in CA, CT, NJ and NY
- Certified holistic health coach, Institute for Integrative Nutrition
- PACT Level 1 and Gottman Method Level 1 couples training
Good to Know
Boundaries Workbook FAQs
What is a boundaries worksheet?
A boundaries worksheet is a set of written prompts that help you notice where your limits are, name the need behind them and plan what to say. This workbook brings many worksheets together in one guided PDF, with explanations and scripts alongside them.
How do I get the workbook after I buy it?
It's a digital download. After checkout you get a download link on screen and by email, so you can print it or fill it in on a tablet.
Who wrote the workbook?
Risha London Nathan, a licensed psychotherapist and certified holistic health coach. It draws on the same tools she uses with clients: attachment, family systems, Nonviolent Communication and body-based practices.
Is the workbook a replacement for therapy?
No. It's an educational tool. If you're working through trauma, abuse or a relationship where you don't feel safe, please do this work with the support of a licensed professional. If you are in crisis, call or text 988.
How long does it take to complete?
Plan about 20 to 30 minutes per part. Many people work through one part a week, then use the 30-day practice to build the habit.
Can I use it with my partner or my therapist?
Yes. Many of the worksheets work well as a starting point for a conversation, in couples therapy or in your own sessions.
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Practice Boundaries With a Therapist
The workbook is a strong place to start. If old patterns keep pulling you back, we can work on them together in online therapy or coaching.